The Denver Hospice

For over three decades, more than 60,000 patients and their family members have turned to us for care and comfort during difficult times.
As Colorado’s leader in hospice and palliative care we are committed to caring for everyone who comes through our door wherever they call home.
The Denver Hospice cares for the elderly at the end of their long, rich lives, those struck far too young by advanced illness, offers comfort to those who choose to battle their life-limiting illness, offers comfort and grief counseling to families and friends.

What to Expect When Grieving

 

COMMON DIMENSIONS OF GRIEF:

 Feelings

  • shock, numbness, denial, disbelief
  • anxiety, fear, panic
  • loss, emptiness
  • loneliness
  • sadness, depression
  • loss of pleasure
  • hurt, frustration
  • helplessness, hopelessness
  • explosive emotions — anger, hate, resentment, jealousy
  • guilt, regret
  • disorganization, confusion
  • relief, emancipation
  • reconciliation, re-establishment

Thoughts

  • disbelief
  • confusion
  • preoccupation with the deceased
  • sense of presence
  • lack of concentration
  • trouble remembering things 

Behaviors

  • absent-minded behavior
  • crying and sobbing
  • restlessness, inability to sit still
  • trying to “stay busy”
  • visiting places or carrying objects which remind you of the deceased
  • treasuring objects belonging to the deceased
  • avoiding reminders of the deceased
  • experiencing “grief attacks” — sudden, acute upsurges of grief
  • dreams of the deceased

Social Dimensions

  • social withdrawal
  • fearful of being alone
  • dependent, clingy behavior
  • surround yourself with others as a form of distraction
  • irritable
  • moody
  • attempts to replace the loss
  • changes in role, status, family system

 Physical Dimensions

  • fatigue, lack of energy
  • hollowness in the stomach, stomach-ache, other gastrointestinal disturbances
  • sleep difficulties (too much or too little; interrupted sleep)
  • weight loss or weight gain (with associated appetite changes)
  • feelings of emptiness and heaviness
  • heart palpitations, trembling, shaking, hot flashes, and other indications of anxiety
  • nervousness, tension, agitation, irritability
  • shortness of breath
  • headache
  • muscle aches and pains
  • chest pain, pressure, or discomfort

 Spiritual

  • searching for meaning
  • asking the “why” questions
  • mystical experiences
  • reassessing values, beliefs, and priorities
  • feeling anger at God
  • feeling abandoned by God
  • experiencing comfort from God and faith community
  • exploring new dimensions of faith
  • using rituals to help the healing process
  • prayer and meditation